The Invitation

The Invitation

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for

and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool

for love

for your dream

for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon...

I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow

if you have been opened by life's betrayals

or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me

is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty

even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"Yes."

It doesn't interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up

after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done

to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know

or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stand

in the centre of the fire

with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom

you have studied.

I want to know what sustains you

from the inside

when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone

with yourself

and if you truly like the company you keep

in the empty moments.

Fu Lu Shou

Shous 5 ways to know a good relationship

Seems that it's hard to distinguish when we are in a solid profound relationship that has potential to reach the pinnacle (marriage/life partner). Most of us become very comfortable with the person because of various reasons and really they are not a true match for happiness. “Familiarity & Voids” are very popular reasons for most couples to continue on in a relationship that has been under fire/headed in the opposite direction.


The “familiar” keeps us with a person an allows us to continue to put up with the obnoxious, irritable and nonsense that we wouldn’t regularly put up with elsewhere. Generally this occurs because one aspect of your partner has a deep thick hook in you (weakness you have for them). Like I spoke about when avoiding certain types of characteristics of the opposite sex, if you are already in a relationship with someone possessing one of those characteristics then it’s probably time to GET OUT!

Easier said than done right? Well you can continue to become more miserable, continue the bickering and enjoy the make-up sex (which I don’t deny is great), yet wake up the next morning in the same situation, the same vicious cycle. The alternative is to suck it up; walk away from what you know is not right for you or them. Be PATIENT, wait on that special someone who is more ideal for the long term.

*Note*: Most people jump into another relationship without taking time to regroup, learn the good/bad of what has just occurred and just be by themselves! It is crucial to identify who you were before and who you have become after a relationship (trust me relationships because of compromise and growth, to a degree changes an individual).

The “void is my biggest pet peeves but also the most popular amongst men and women these days. This is where you need the feeling of someone chasing/desiring you, which also has all the makeup of a relationship, yet you don’t want to commit because they are just not quite what YOU want. If they are not what you want then why continue to waste their time and your own? To fill the void until “THE ONE” comes along or something better fills your void? For those of you who don’t believe in karma I will be the first to tell you what goes around comes around!

Its one thing to have an open relationship, it’s another to try to be a player!

I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t want a great relationship and true love. How do you find that though in a selfish world where everyone is stepping over everyone to get what THEY desire and press on until they ultimately are ready to settle down?

It’s about becoming aware and rethinking what you as an individual sees as a good relationship & as a real partner for your life.

I pose these questions for you to first ask yourself and then ask your mate (if applicable):

1. Are you cherished? How do you treat your mate/lover? How do you desire to be treated?

2. Can/Are you liked? Is their an appreciation? Do you and your friends go out to complain about your mate/lover?

3. Can you Trust them? Can you be trusted? How safe do you feel with the person you are with?

4. Is their Love? What is real love to you? Can you see yourself falling in love?

5. What is sex to you? Is it the definition of a relationship?

My pastor said this past Sunday “to bare the trust of another person, you are putting that persons soul in danger”. Too many people do not understand/miscommunicate their emotions to another person. Timing is very important in developing a relationship for the simple fact if one person is in 100% and the other one isn’t then it can be damaging if the relationship is carried out or sex is the only content (booty calls/friends with benefits). You will be surprised to know how many people are not on the same page!

Truly it can be prevented by communication but seriously we all know that a lot of people out there have problems with communication. Be the one to speak up, get a sense for what is going on in your relationship (whether friends or more)!

5 ways to know that you are in a great relationship:

1. You are Cherished

2. You are Liked

3. Their is Trust

4. Feel Loved

5. Real Sex (meaning not just lust/basis of your relationship)

If you are not yet in a relationship then keep these things in mind when you are with that potential special someone.

MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU!

Fu Lu Shou