"Nothing defines humans better than their willingness to do irrational things in the pursuit of phenomenally unlikely payoffs. This is the principle behind lotteries, DATING and religion.
-Scott Adams-
It was last Thursday that I had my first experience outside the usual way of meeting a woman. Usual meaning the bar, grocery store, book store/library, java house and random places that you would never expect to meet a woman. A friend of mine who seems to enjoy the nightlife of Denver urged myself an other co-workers to go to this event in hopes of not only him meeting a girl but also so maybe we might find someone as well. Honestly, I didn’t even plan on going till the day of the event simply because I really wanted to see my friend Alex who is just a funny guy put on a show (was curious to see how he comes off to the ladies, since he doesn’t always seem to take much in life seriously). It was four of us who decided to go to the Irish Snug to see what the whole speed dating event was all about. We arrived a bit early; I instantly had a bad feeling about the whole thing simply because I was not feeling what I had already seen. None of the ladies stood out and their were more guys than girls. After grabbing a beer with the guys the place seemed to fill up but not really any potential Mrs. P's for me. Although their were none peaking my interest, my buddy Mick was like a kid in the candy store as his eyes danced from one woman to the next in awe. My buddy Alex was really concentrating on his script for questions to ask the ladies and Chad was well.........cool, calm and collected with really no emotion (had his game face on). It was getting close to game time, I was one beer in and felt I probably am going to need another one (or 4 more) before we get this fiesta started (especially to be talking non-stop for 90-120min straight).
The set up was for you to write your name and email address on the welcome clipboard. You then take a half sheet of paper with eight blocks for you to write in your top eight ladies that you found interesting. Everyone had a name tag on with their number on it (for what table you started at or sat at). At the end of the speed dating you turn in your card. If you wrote down the same person who wrote you down, then you would get an email with their information so that you could conversate and take the next step towards dating/hanging out. The women rotated every three minutes as the men stayed put at their table. Overall their was twenty-seven women and twenty-five men.
I was in a great seat to see what was coming next an down the line. I could see the whole room and really what I saw wasn’t all that great really, but then again I'm not the most beautiful flower in the garden. As far as physical attraction I saw all shapes and sizes from petite to bbw (big beautiful woman).
With that being said, only a few stood out:
My first woman was in her mid 30's who had a slender athletic body, dirty blonde hair, bluish-greenish eyes and liked to fidget. Our conversation was longer than three minutes as we started before they announced everyone to start. I found out she is a woman who likes to hike, bike, workout, run (does the snug run every Thursday) and is an accountant. She thought that relationships are very hard because people fake their way through the first few months in order to break down walls. I told her I found that disturbing because you should just come right out and be who you are, if it is not acceptable than they are just not suited for you. I asked her where she is meeting these types of people that you can not be yourself; she spoke about her experience with meeting a guy from Suite 200 (which turned into a 2min soap opera). I am not one to knock the meet a person in a club/lounge/bar but be very PICKY/SELECTIVE! Finally the announcement came to SWITCH.
My next girl who I will never forget was a 5'4 120lbs with beautiful green eyes, athletic, bubbly, genuine and just really no matter what ethnicity or values you grew up with this is the girl you take home to the family. Natalie was everything an a lot more than what I expected out this whole speed dating experience. When she talked to me I couldn’t stop making eye contact because I was hypnotized by those green eyes she possessed. We talked about sports, the outdoors, foods, her job, our dreams (separately) and why we were both single. It was a conversation that I didn’t want to end with a person who had my full attention within 3-4min. She was your typical girl next door, natural beauty, no facade, down to earth, interesting, naturally sexy with amazing sex appeal, funny and genuine. I did the one thing I didn’t expect to do that night and I told her that she was beautiful. Probably the whole thing was a bit premature but I found her to be beautiful more for within rather than the outside (the most interesting woman of the night).
After the bliss of an incredible surprise, I was greeted with my first BBW. (Note: I think their are many beautiful BBW's but this was just not one of them-not even close). She told me to ask her something interesting which when put on the spot by her I felt a little uncomfortable and lost for words. She told me my buddy (Alex) asked her what she was passionate about an all I could say was "so"! I wanted that 3min to end it was seriously the longest 3min of my life. I don’t know what it is but I think I have an invisible sign that says come with your best game if you’re BBW-DAMN! She proceeded to ask me what I found interesting, I simply ignored her question an turned it around on her. She ended the conversation by saying "don't you just know within the first minute and a half that you and the person are not going to have anything in common and you are just counting the seconds till you get to go to the next table?" My response was that I am feeling that way right about now!
I got BBW back to back but this one was at least interesting to speak with as she is basically the manager for this up and coming band here in Denver. I feel bad because the guy that she works for treats her like shit (will not claim her as the manager of the band) but because he can’t even book his own flights depends on her. She really has good insight on relationships as she has not been in very many but has been the counselor for many. She seemed to be a great networking tool but because it was speed dating not the right type of scenario to "plug into her pipeline of people" (wouldn’t want her to get the wrong idea).
Lastly, their was the incredibly sexy Maureen who was built like a goddess. She was incredible but definitely the woman who is untameable. You will only get your heartbroken as fast as you can fall in love with Maureen. It was almost scary talking to her because we simply were both talking into a mirror as we talked about relationships, interests, people, observing and goals. Space was very important to Maureen in a relationship-something that people either give too much of or too little. I've noticed when a woman keeps emphasizing space that she ultimately is not interested in a serious relationship, she is looking for something
more casual.
Overall my experience of Speed Dating wasn’t quite like the clip on the movie "Hitch". Their was no sexy ass Eva Mendes speed dating to support her friend and no date doctor stepping in to explain why love is so damn hard. By the time the night was over I had spoken to eighteen women (by number 10 I think they were drunk) and only wrote down 2 that I would be interested in getting to know (really one). Most conversations started with "Hows your night so far? Have you done this before? What do you like to do? What do you do for a living?" Not much you can get out of 3-5min of talking with someone unless you just have an instant attraction that also possesses chemistry to spark the conversation (outside the basic/boring questions). I ended up not turning in my card though simply because I didn't find speed dating to be very well organized and also I think that not very many others turned in cards. I think that I would like to expand on the idea of speed dating running my own event. It’s easier, fun and more interesting than internet dating and much more comfortable than approaching a woman in the grocery store that you dont know is single (although I like risk plus reward). It allows people the opportunity to not hide behind the phone or email (dating sites). You get the initial physical attraction factor out of the way and the next thing is to see if you can click within 3-5min. Is it possible? I think so, but ultimately it all comes down to being on the same page-TIMING!!!!!!!!!
Fu Lu Shou
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